YEAH,, Its a mistake !!!!

I've made a lot of big mistakes in my life. I've hurt people, I've broken things, I've neglected to fulfill responsibilities, I've said stupid things, I've hurt people by saying stupid things--you name it, I've been there.  Fortunately, as I grow older I recognize situations that are just waiting for mistakes a little earlier than I used to, and I'm able to avoid making many of the same mistakes that I've made before. Many, not all.

But one of the most liberating aspects of my life these days is the fact that I'm now able to accept my mistakes for what they are-- mistakes.  Not crimes (in my case, anyway), and not horrible actions that will lead to complete social stigmatization, but just mistakes.  I used to beat myself up over them, and my own mental beatings after the mistakes were much worse than the mistake itself, or anything that anyone else could have done to me as a result of the mistake.

It used to be that if I said something hurtful, I'd feel that the person I hurt never would want to talk to me again, that the person would reject me completely for the rest of my life.  The reality of the situation, though, was that most of the time, the other person forgot about it pretty quickly, and I was still agonizing over the response of someone who wasn't even thinking of what I did any more.

I'd also be afraid that once someone saw me make a mistake, that person wouldn't trust me any longer.  It was pretty awful, because just like in the previous example, most people forgot about my mistake pretty quickly--or at least, they weren't holding it against me.

The time and energy that I wasted agonizing over what were almost always minor mistakes could have been spent much more effectively on pursuits other than making myself miserable.

Nowadays, though, mistakes are an important part of my life, for they have a very positive effect on me now--at least two very positive effects that I can think of.

First off, they help me to learn.  Once I make a mistake now, I own it--I admit it and I look at it to figure out what went wrong. As a teacher, it's very important for me to know what goes into a mistake, both for my sake and for the sake of anyone that I'm able to teach about mistakes.  I learn a lot from my mistakes--I learn how things shouldn't be done, I learn how I often misjudge situations or people, and I learn that I can't foresee all results of my actions.

Secondly, mistakes keep me humble, for they always provide me with an opportunity to offer a heartfelt apology.  Apologies are an invitation for forgiveness, and forgiveness is a positive aspect of anyone's life.  Once I apologize for a mistake I've made, my relationship with the other person or people strengthens, as long as the other parties are willing to accept the apology.

I no longer agonize over mistakes, and I recognize now just how harmful my own thoughts were when I used to do that.  I kind of wish that I had some of the lost time and energy back, but I know that the agonizing was another mistake, one that took me a little bit longer to learn from.

Take risks and make your mistakes--you're human, and you're bound to make mistakes. When you do make them, learn from them, and accept them as a part of your life, a part of who you are and who you'll be.  My guess is that nobody gets through this life without making an extremely high number of mistakes, and you're no exception.  Another guess of mine is that the wisest among us are those who have made the most mistakes and who have owned up to and learned from them all.  Your road to wisdom isn't in a book--it's in your own mistakes!
 so i would like to appolize for what i hap done that might be the compulsion or a decison ..that were my beautiful n memorable part of my life that a cannot get again in my life...that made me stronger n stronger .

                 Some memorable pics..

# Me with my father .who care for me ,we make me able to judge what is right n what is wrong

# Some days r so interesting that we cant forget it .goldengate hostel lyf .hangover with the guitar..

# me at the baneshwor infront of topari (a small resturant ) which will be missed alot in a coming life ..with a sad last day at goldengate clz

# my first visit to india gate 

The Art of Forgiveness

The art of forgiveness begins when you forgive someone.

It is having a humble spirit and being done with pride and self-pity.  It is taking a step toward the practice of forgiveness.  Hate is death, forgiveness is life.

Forgiveness works the miracle of change.  When Lincoln was asked why he did not destroy his enemies he replied:  "If I make my enemies my friends, don't I then destroy them?"  When you forgive you change others and you change yourself.  You change discord to harmony.

Forgiveness should span the years.  You should first forgive yourself for the wrongs you've done to yourself and others, for the mistakes you've made.  Then you should forgive and bless all those who have wronged you during your lifetime.  Thus you release others and you release yourself.  You break the chains of regret and remorse that bind you.  You free your mind from the burdens of the past so you may walk victoriously into the future.

Forgiveness works two ways.  You must forgive to be forgiven.  "He who cannot forgive others," wrote Edward Herbert, "breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass; for every man has the need to be forgiven."

Forgiveness should become a habit.  When the Master was asked how often we should forgive, he answered:  "Until seventy time seven."  He who forgives to infinity will never hate.

Forgiveness should start now.  Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound.  Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness.  Life is short, time is fleeting.  Today is the day to forgive.

Forgiveness is the way to personal peace.  It is performing mental surgery on yourself, probing deep within to remove hurts, grudges, and resentments.  It is forgetting wrongs as though they had never been.  It is flooding your mind with the powerful medicine of forgiveness that cleanses and heals.  It is discovering a serenity you've never known before.

ABOUT ME AND MY EXPERIENCE .......

            CRAZY things comes in crazy mind . in fact ,we were too crazy .we never becomes hopeless but we used to become sad .we spend school life and college with too enjoyment .we used to enjoy the the evening wolk,sleep late ,flert girls and..blah blah blah..
           As i was too crazy.i never regret my life .i go on conqueering everyday but it was the time came,it was the end of school life and it was the time of tragedy to miss school frns .we take slc exams .we were too happy to finish school life .some of my friends used to think ,"our boring days has ended" but it was faulty thinking.school life was the best and unforgetable life and their memories were unforgetable ,it was the end of funney n innocent life.
we will not realize ,we have to leave all when ,we celebrate happy new years with friends,when were together in the assembly .we wont realise we have to leave school one day .
we only realize we have to leave school when we attend fairwell pragramme .we have to leave whom we used to be with everyday .imagine,whom you used to be with ,friends ,best friends will not be with you.people whom you used to see in corridor ,(frns and best frns) you will not see them ,you need not to go to coaching class .you need not to go school any more.they all will disapper from ur life.how do you feel .too painful...........one day time comes whom you were grown up with never cross ur mind.
so the valuable things i take with me is the memories .i thank all who were part of my life.i thank all who were close frns,best frns,who broke my heart,whom i quarell and  to all because you all changed me to become what i wanted to be.i thank to all who lent their soldiers for me to cry on.who understand me and share joyful and painfull emmotions.so these memories will be the memories for forever ...lets hope we will be in touch whereever we may be.we wont forget each other throughout the life .....i gonna miss u all guys....

WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND .......

 In NURSERY your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red PENSIL when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

Thats the fun tym ...D10 ggic

 

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in DANCING CLASS so you wouldn't have to be stuck .

 In fifth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who saved a seat in the back of the bus for you.

Some are frns, gud frns, best frns ,some r enemies , everybody is seperated
Grade 5

 
In sixth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went up to THEM, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had forgotten about.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out in tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents, who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go. . .

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that u n  frns were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at eighteen years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories, reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past eighteen years, and, most important, sent you off to college knowing you were loved   
    

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Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you even when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and, most important, loves you!

Life Loves You!.......... Be courageous and live the adventure.

Life on this planet is an adventure—from the moment we’re born until the time we take our last breath. Life is a madcap caper—scary, exhilarating, boring, peaceful, loving—it’s an escapade. Life is a quest. Life is a thrill. Life is romance. Life is a lark. Life is!
We all experience every emotion possible, and oftentimes, we don’t like being in the game of Life. We can be afraid and try to protect ourselves from criticism. We can hide, but then we may miss the wonderful adventure that’s available to us. Everyone is afraid of something, but we can do it anyway.
Part of the adventure of Life is going through our fears and coming out on the other side—stronger and even more triumphant. No one is more courageous and adventurous than a baby fighting its way down the birth canal—struggling for its first breath, or a child taking its first steps.
You can’t hide from Life. Life is here for you to live to the fullest. Take your courage in your hands and move out into Life. Ask for what you want. Believe that you deserve it, and then allow Life to give it to you. Be sure that you’re willing to receive. Life can’t give to you if your hands are closed. Open your mind, open your heart, and open your arms. Life loves you and only wants to give you the best.

History of Friendship Day

we cant buy this moment again...frns forever

                      

The tradition of celebrating Friendship Day began in 1935  when the US Congress decided to dedicate a day in THE honor of friends.Though it is not known exactly what were thereasons that went into the making of this day,the retrospection of the world scenario of those timescan lead us to an understanding.With the devastating effects of the First World War still showing and increasing hostilities, mistrust andhatred between countries providing the perfect conditionsfor another imminent battle, there was a greater needfor friendship and camaraderie not only among nations but also among individuals.Hence, the US Congress decided to designate the first Sunday of the month of August as Friendship Dayand with a formal proclamation in 1935, officiallydeclared the occasion a holiday dedicated in the honour of friends and friendship.Since then,celebration of National Friendship Day became an annual event. The lofty idea of honoring the beautiful relationship of friendship caught on with the people, particularly the youngsters all over the country, and in no time Friendship Day became a highly popular festival. But the success of this wonderful occasion was not to be limited to the US alone.With time, several other countries followed suitin adopting the tradition of dedicating a day to the cause of friendship. The beautiful idea of having a day in the honor of friends was joyously taken over by several other countries across the world.With more and more nations joining in the celebrations, FriendshipDay soon became InternationalFriendshipDay. AT AUGUST FIRST SUNDAY

                            VIA FRIENDSIP DAY HISTORY